The Fish and The Dish

Someone asked me a really good question in a Coaching Session recently.

“Why isn’t my relationship working out? My parents were so happy that I’ve always wanted a relationship just like that. But, why isn’t it working for me??”

Good question!

If it’s working for others, why isn’t it working for me??

So I Gave them my ‘Fish and The Dish’ story…

A little girl was watching her mother prepare a fish for dinner.

Her mother cut the head and tail off the fish and then placed it into a baking pan.

The little girl asked her mother “Why do you cut the head and tail off the fish?”

Her mother thought for a while and then said, “I’ve always done it that way – That’s how my mother always cooked it and it’s always tasted great”

So, the next time the little girl went to visit her grandma she asked her why she cut the head and tail off the fish before baking it.

Her grandma thought for a while and replied, “I don’t know. I suppose it’s because my mother always did it that way and it always tasted great”

So the little girl and the grandma went to visit her great grandma to ask if she knew the answer.

Her great grandma thought for a while and said, “Because my baking dish was too small to fit in the whole fish”.

So if you think about ‘The Fish’ and ‘The Dish’…

People do things that work for them. And just because something worked beautifully for our parents, doesn’t mean that it will work for us.

Perhaps your partner came from a completely different background and has completely different expectations.

Sometimes we just need to understand that we’re cooking with a different size dish 🙂

Carol Anne Lowe ©